Thirty Before 30: Update

OK y’all, I am 12 days away from my Big 3-0. I don’t know why I make such a big deal about it, but it just kinda feels like it IS a big deal, ya know? I think I have high expectations for my 30s…I look back at my 20s and while there are loads of great memories, there are just things I’d take back if I could, or I wish I had done differently…had I had the wisdom I do now. I think I would make some smarter choices about friends, and definitely not bend over too far backward for those that aren’t willing to do the same for me. I think I would have the courage to say more of what exactly is on my mind, rather than sugar-coating it for fear of scrutiny or judgment. Now that I’ve lived these lesson-teaching years, I feel confident in moving forward as a person who has grown so much, who has become better than I used to be {I’ll be the first to admit I had a lot of growing up to do} and I won’t put up with the bullshit and drama I found myself surrounded by at times. I want a more positive life; to only put time into the people and things that matter {because time truly is something we never have enough of, so it shouldn’t go to waste}. I plan on making my 30s the best decade of my life. There will be such great moments as I watch my children grow up, grow closer and more in love with my husband, travel and experience new things and find time for the hobbies I truly love – like art, dance, fitness and this here blog of mine {tee hee}.

That being said, this will probably be the last update of this Thirty Before 30 list…I definitely didn’t do everything I had set out to do, but now I know where to start off my 30s…and hopefully I’ll have a new list of to-do’s for my 40th.

1. Run a Half Marathon {Scheduled for October 21st, 2012 in Myrtle Beach} Common sense came upon me and I realized that training for this during July/August/September in the South when I’m not already a seasoned runner is just plain cray-cray. I’ve still got the goal and just re-started my training on 10/1 to run the Charleston 1/2 Marathon in January.  Good God, I am sucking at this one. A surgery in December put me out for the 1/2 marathon in January (fell out of training and wasn’t ready). Planned to do one in March, but I honestly think I’ll be pushing this back to the Fall. My running has definitely improved, so I’m not at a loss personally, but I’m just a little nervous about doing one yet. {4.2.13 – I’m still planning to try for one in the fall, hey, at least I’ll still BE 30…}
2. Start Selling My Art – seriously need to find the time to paint because I really want to do this. I have been seeking inspiration lately and plan to get going with my first collection hopefully in time for Christmas. OK…need to get on this. {4.2.13 – Yeah, still need to get on this…it’s definitely hard to balance time for it…something I will work on.}
3. Take a Stab at Photography {and get a nice DSLR camera} & Start a Portfolio – Plan to purchase DSLR in December…lots o’ dollars coming my way soon. Yippee! – I did purchase one in December and I have been practicing! I haven’t created an online gallery or portfolio yet. {4.2.13 – Working on my techniques and coming along nicely – no portfolio yet.}
4. Lose 15 lbs – Um yeah, still working on this. Since first making this list in July, I have lost 10 lbs. So well on the way and working hard in the gym to lose a little more. {4.2.13 – I’m still around that 10 lb mark I think, but have made progress in the toning area thanks to regular barre and spin classes.}
5. Take a Long Weekend Getaway – Just Hubby & Me – Not sure this will happen before my 30th. My job loss in January set us back financially by a few weeks. {4.2.13 – We still need to make time for this.}
6. Take Jake & The Boys to Idaho to Visit My Family {Happening 7/21-8/8!}
7. Finish Redecorating the House Work in progress, but a lot accomplished since this list was first made! We’ve done the kitchen updates since the last time I updated this list. We have some painting to do, but other than that, I’m done with a lot of the major stuff.
8. Start {and Keep} A Vegetable/Fruit Garden – Spring plans… {4.2.13 – Ugh, I don’t think this is happening this season.}
9. Take My Sons to Pick Up Litter on the Beach {4.2.13 – Haven’t made a trip just for that, but when we do go, I make them pick up any trash they see.}
10. Rediscover My Inner Dancer and Take Classes Again – Have been hitting barre, but need to dance! {4.2.13 – Still need to find a class, but really enjoying my barre, gym and spin schedule at the moment!}
11. Find the Courage to Sing in Front of a Group of People {4.2.13 – Uummmmm….}
12. Volunteer at My Church {4.2.13 – I haven’t volunteered, but I did go to a women’s conference in January and it was awesome. Really lit me up.}
13. Start Training for a Full Marathon {and maybe run one if I’m ready and can find one before my birthday} – I need to get the half done…then start working toward this.
14. Have My Blog Reach 1,000+ Followers {You can help me with this one! Spread the love!} {Yeah, this is not happening in the next 12 days, but do me a favor, if you like what you read, please share with friends, pin things to Pinterest, etc…it takes a village to raise a blog!}
15. Take A Cooking Class {4.2.13 – No, but have done better meal-planning and trying a lot of new healthy recipes.}
16. Take a Girls’ Weekend Trip {4.2.13 – This is something I still really need to do…my mom and I are going to NYC in December though!}
17. Complete a Round of Insanity – Did like 1/4 of a round a few weeks back…started again this week. Started again, then stopped. Think I will restart on Saturday. {4.2.13 – I do a DVD here and there along with all of my other gym and class stuff, but have not started to do the whole program again yet.}
18. Complete a Round of Insanity: Asylum Vol. 1 – Will have to finish #17 first. – This probably won’t happen since I’m not done with Insanity. But I plan to take this on this year sometime.
19. Get a Family Pet That Tanner Can Learn to Care For We got some fish (8)! And just got a new Siberian Husky {which I have to care for, Tanner helps} {4.2.13 – Most of you may know, that Tundra, our Siberian Husky, had to be put down due to breathing complications from cancer…it was heartbreaking. My husband did surprise me with an English Bulldog puppy named Sugar. We’ve had her just over a week.}
20. Take the Boys to LegoLand We are going in June (so not before my birthday, but still!)
21. Find the Courage to Let Go of the Clothes in My Closet I Truly Don’t Need AnymoreGarage sale last weekend!
22. Give My Husband a Wonderful 35th Birthday
23. Quit Drinking Diet Rockstars/Energy Drinks – I don’t want to talk about it. #failingmiserably {4.2.13 – Still failing…}
24. Take a “Brothers” Picture of Tanner & Breckin At Least Once A Month {4.2.13 – Pretty much have done this.}
25. Get Professional Family Pictures Taken {Preferably Once in the Fall & Again in Spring}
26. Open an IRA or 401K {Don’t worry, Hubby does have an account through USCG! I’d just like to help out too.} Just started a new job that offers a 401K and matches a percentage. Will get that in 90 days, so it won’t be in time for my 30th, but soon after.
27. Start a Ladies Fitness Group/Boot Camp – Got the Facebook Group for other Lowcountry gals started, but need to do some meeting up! {4.2.13 – Still need to find the time and effort required to do this!}
28. Find a Hairstyle/Color that I Love and Can Maintain {4.2.13 – I’ve been debating going shorter again, haven’t decided.}
29. Monetize My Blog {4.2.13 – Decided this isn’t so important anymore…I just love to blog.}
30. Find out I’m preggers with #3…? {This is a big maybe, but definitely want it to happen by 30 if it’s going to!} {4.2.13 – Yeeeeeaaaah, no.}

Do you have a bucket list of any sort going right now? How are you doing? xoxo

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Thirty Before 30: Update

OK, I have less than two months until my Big 3-0 – so I thought it was time for an update. I will be honest and tell you I’ve lost sight of this list a little bit…so I’m hoping as I go through it that I’ve actually accomplished more than I think I have. Let’s see…

1. Run a Half Marathon {Scheduled for October 21st, 2012 in Myrtle Beach} Common sense came upon me and I realized that training for this during July/August/September in the South when I’m not already a seasoned runner is just plain cray-cray. I’ve still got the goal and just re-started my training on 10/1 to run the Charleston 1/2 Marathon in January.  Good God, I am sucking at this one. A surgery in December put me out for the 1/2 marathon in January (fell out of training and wasn’t ready). Planned to do one in March, but I honestly think I’ll be pushing this back to the Fall. My running has definitely improved, so I’m not at a loss personally, but I’m just a little nervous about doing one yet.
2. Start Selling My Art – seriously need to find the time to paint because I really want to do this. I have been seeking inspiration lately and plan to get going with my first collection hopefully in time for Christmas. OK…need to get on this.
3. Take a Stab at Photography {and get a nice DSLR camera} & Start a Portfolio – Plan to purchase DSLR in December…lots o’ dollars coming my way soon. Yippee! – I did purchase one in December and I have been practicing! I haven’t created an online gallery or portfolio yet.
4. Lose 15 lbs – Um yeah, still working on this. Since first making this list in July, I have lost 10 lbs. So well on the way and working hard in the gym to lose a little more.
5. Take a Long Weekend Getaway – Just Hubby & Me – Not sure this will happen before my 30th. My job loss in January set us back financially by a few weeks.
6. Take Jake & The Boys to Idaho to Visit My Family {Happening 7/21-8/8!}
7. Finish Redecorating the House Work in progress, but a lot accomplished since this list was first made! We’ve done the kitchen updates since the last time I updated this list. We have some painting to do, but other than that, I’m done with a lot of the major stuff.
8. Start {and Keep} A Vegetable/Fruit Garden – Spring plans…
9. Take My Sons to Pick Up Litter on the Beach
10. Rediscover My Inner Dancer and Take Classes Again – Have been hitting barre, but need to dance!
11. Find the Courage to Sing in Front of a Group of People
12. Volunteer at My Church
13. Start Training for a Full Marathon {and maybe run one if I’m ready and can find one before my birthday} – I need to get the half done…then start working toward this.
14. Have My Blog Reach 1,000+ Followers {You can help me with this one! Spread the love!}
15. Take A Cooking Class
16. Take a Girls’ Weekend Trip
17. Complete a Round of Insanity – Did like 1/4 of a round a few weeks back…started again this week. Started again, then stopped. Think I will restart on Saturday.
18. Complete a Round of Insanity: Asylum Vol. 1 – Will have to finish #17 first. – This probably won’t happen since I’m not done with Insanity. But I plan to take this on this year sometime.
19. Get a Family Pet That Tanner Can Learn to Care For We got some fish (8)! And just got a new Siberian Husky {which I have to care for, Tanner helps}
20. Take the Boys to LegoLand We are going in June (so not before my birthday, but still!)
21. Find the Courage to Let Go of the Clothes in My Closet I Truly Don’t Need AnymoreGarage sale last weekend!
22. Give My Husband a Wonderful 35th Birthday
23. Quit Drinking Diet Rockstars/Energy Drinks – I don’t want to talk about it. #failingmiserably
24. Take a “Brothers” Picture of Tanner & Breckin At Least Once A Month
25. Get Professional Family Pictures Taken {Preferably Once in the Fall & Again in Spring}
26. Open an IRA or 401K {Don’t worry, Hubby does have an account through USCG! I’d just like to help out too.} Just started a new job that offers a 401K and matches a percentage. Will get that in 90 days, so it won’t be in time for my 30th, but soon after.
27. Start a Ladies Fitness Group/Boot Camp – Got the Facebook Group for other Lowcountry gals started, but need to do some meeting up!
28. Find a Hairstyle/Color that I Love and Can Maintain
29. Monetize My Blog
30. Find out I’m preggers with #3…? {This is a big maybe, but definitely want it to happen by 30 if it’s going to!}

I really need to get more focused on my goals. Life throws me a round so much that I lose track. I guess I haven’t done so bad, but definitely could have done better. Will recap you in a couple months when I turn 30!

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Dirty 30 Bucket List Update – 1/2 Year To Go

I am 6 months away from {gulp} 30. {Note to Hubby if you are reading [which you aren’t]: Start planning my party!}

I created this bucket list 3 months ago and shared it here with you…time for a little update…{basically not a ton has changed, I just desperately needed to publicize it again so as to hopefully light a fire under my ass.} So here it is:

1. Run a Half Marathon {Scheduled for October 21st, 2012 in Myrtle Beach} Common sense came upon me and I realized that training for this during July/August/September in the South when I’m not already a seasoned runner is just plain cray-cray. I’ve still got the goal and just re-started my training on 10/1 to run the Charleston 1/2 Marathon in January.
2. Start Selling My Art – seriously need to find the time to paint because I really want to do this. I have been seeking inspiration lately and plan to get going with my first collection hopefully in time for Christmas.
3. Take a Stab at Photography {and get a nice DSLR camera} & Start a Portfolio – Plan to purchase DSLR in December…lots o’ dollars coming my way soon. Yippee!
4. Lose 15 lbs – Um yeah, still working on this.
5. Take a Long Weekend Getaway – Just Hubby & Me
6. Take Jake & The Boys to Idaho to Visit My Family {Happening 7/21-8/8!}
7. Finish Redecorating the House – Work in progress, but a lot accomplished since this list was first made!
8. Start {and Keep} A Vegetable/Fruit Garden – Spring plans…
9. Take My Sons to Pick Up Litter on the Beach
10. Rediscover My Inner Dancer and Take Classes Again – Have been hitting barre, but need to dance!
11. Find the Courage to Sing in Front of a Group of People
12. Volunteer at My Church
13. Start Training for a Full Marathon {and maybe run one if I’m ready and can find one before my birthday} – I need to get the half done in January…then start working toward this.
14. Have My Blog Reach 1,000+ Followers {You can help me with this one! Spread the love!}
15. Take A Cooking Class
16. Take a Girls’ Weekend Trip
17. Complete a Round of Insanity – Did like 1/4 of a round a few weeks back…started again this week.
18. Complete a Round of Insanity: Asylum Vol. 1 – Will have to finish #17 first.
19. Get a Family Pet That Tanner Can Learn to Care For We got some fish (8)! And just got a new Siberian Husky {which I have to care for, Tanner helps}
20. Take the Boys to LegoLand – In planning stage
21. Find the Courage to Let Go of the Clothes in My Closet I Truly Don’t Need Anymore – Garage sale last weekend!
22. Give My Husband a Wonderful 35th Birthday
23. Quit Drinking Diet Rockstars/Energy Drinks – I don’t want to talk about it. #failingmiserably
24. Take a “Brothers” Picture of Tanner & Breckin At Least Once A Month
25. Get Professional Family Pictures Taken {Preferably Once in the Fall & Again in Spring}
26. Open an IRA {Don’t worry, Hubby does have an account through USCG! I’d just like to help out too.}
27. Start a Ladies Fitness Group/Boot Camp – Got the Facebook Group for other Lowcountry gals started, but need to do some meeting up!
28. Find a Hairstyle/Color that I Love and Can Maintain
29. Monetize My Blog
30. Find out I’m preggers with #3…? {This is a big maybe, but definitely want it to happen by 30 if it’s going to!}

So, some of this is date-specific, which is out of my control, but there are a few other things I’ve lost sight of since I created this, so I’m glad I pulled it back out so I can get myself in check. Hope to come back in another 3 months with a {more accomplished} update!

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Dirty 30 {Bucket List}

I don’t normally post on the weekend, but it’s the 14th and I realized I have an entire pregnancy until I turn 30. {Now don’t get too excited, I’m not preggers, just putting it into some sort of real time perspective for y’all.}

I have been a little torn about turning {gulp} 30…{not that I have much choice in the matter, but still}. I guess it’s a little hard for me to believe my 20s will officially be behind me. I feel like I haven’t done enough…like I should have been traveling, living single, making memories with friends…but instead my 20s for the most part were spent being a mother…I became pregnant with my first at the fresh age of 21. I don’t regret being a mommy in the least, but it looks like I’ll have to wait a little longer to explore the places I want to see in the world. {I guess at least maybe by then I’ll have the financial means to do it up right…we do tend to be better off in our 40s…}

But anyway, not to get too far off track. I do have a few things I WOULD like to accomplish before I turn 30…so here goes…

1. Run a Half Marathon {Scheduled for October 21st, 2012 in Myrtle Beach}
2. Start Selling My Art
3. Take a Stab at Photography {and get a nice DSLR camera} & Start a Portfolio
4. Lose 15 lbs
5. Take a Long Weekend Getaway – Just Hubby & Me
6. Take Jake & The Boys to Idaho to Visit My Family {Happening 7/21-8/8!}
7. Finish Redecorating the House
8. Start {and Keep} A Vegetable/Fruit Garden
9. Take My Sons to Pick Up Litter on the Beach
10. Rediscover My Inner Dancer and Take Classes Again
11. Find the Courage to Sing in Front of a Group of People
12. Volunteer at My Church
13. Start Training for a Full Marathon {and maybe run one if I’m ready and can find one before my birthday}
14. Have My Blog Reach 1,000+ Followers {You can help me with this one! Spread the love!}
15. Take A Cooking Class
16. Take a Girls’ Weekend Trip
17. Complete a Round of Insanity
18. Complete a Round of Insanity: Asylum Vol. 1
19. Get a Family Pet That Tanner Can Learn to Care For
20. Take the Boys to LegoLand
21. Find the Courage to Let Go of the Clothes in My Closet I Truly Don’t Need Anymore
22. Give My Husband a Wonderful 35th Birthday
23. Quit Drinking Diet Rockstars/Energy Drinks
24. Take a “Brothers” Picture of Tanner & Breckin At Least Once A Month
25. Get Professional Family Pictures Taken {Preferably Once in the Fall & Again in Spring}
26. Open an IRA {Don’t worry, Hubby does have an account through USCG! I’d just like to help out too.}
27. Start a Ladies Fitness Group/Boot Camp
28. Find a Hairstyle/Color that I Love and Can Maintain
29. Monetize My Blog
30. Find out I’m preggers with #3…? {This is a big maybe, but definitely want it to happen by 30 if it’s going to!}

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Additionally, Glamour posted the following list in an article titled 30 Things Every Woman Should Have and Should Know by the Time She’s 30.
Here’s the full list – and I will highlight what I’ve accomplished so far:

By 30, you should have …
1. One old boyfriend you can imagine going back to and one who reminds you of how far you’ve come.
2. A decent piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in your family.
3. Something perfect to wear if the employer or man of your dreams wants to see you in an hour.
4. A purse, a suitcase, and an umbrella you’re not ashamed to be seen carrying.
5. A youth you’re content to move beyond.
6. A past juicy enough that you’re looking forward to retelling it in your old age.
7. The realization that you are actually going to have an old age — and some money set aside to help fund it.
8. An email address, a voice mailbox, and a bank account — all of which nobody has access to but you.
9. A résumé that is not even the slightest bit padded.
10. One friend who always makes you laugh and one who lets you cry.
11. A set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black lace bra.
12. Something ridiculously expensive that you bought for yourself, just because you deserve it.
13. The belief that you deserve it.
14. A skin-care regimen, an exercise routine, and a plan for dealing with those few other facets of life that don’t get better after 30.
15. A solid start on a satisfying career, a satisfying relationship, and all those other facets of life that do get better.

By 30, you should know …
1. How to fall in love without losing yourself.
2. How you feel about having kids.
3. How to quit a job, break up with a man, and confront a friend without ruining the friendship.
4. When to try harder and when to walk away.
5. How to kiss in a way that communicates perfectly what you would and wouldn’t like to happen next.
6. The names of the secretary of state, your great-grandmothers, and the best tailor in town.
7. How to live alone, even if you don’t like to.
8. Where to go — be it your best friend’s kitchen table or a yoga mat — when your soul needs soothing.
9. That you can’t change the length of your legs, the width of your hips, or the nature of your parents.
10. That your childhood may not have been perfect, but it’s over.
11. What you would and wouldn’t do for money or love.
12. That nobody gets away with smoking, drinking, doing drugs, or not flossing for very long.
13. Who you can trust, who you can’t, and why you shouldn’t take it personally.
14. Not to apologize for something that isn’t your fault.
15. Why they say life begins at 30 – {I guess I’ll find out soon enough!}